All of You

Inspired by Terry Real’s quote, “there is nothing that harshness does that loving firmness doesn’t do better,” in this episode we’re taking a closer look at why we can get so harsh with the people we love. Where does it come from, and why does it seem to come out most when we really want to be heard?
We talk about the difference between being direct, being firm, and being harsh, and how our old patterns can sneak into the way we communicate. Because even when you’ve asked a million times, getting harsher probably isn’t going to get you what you want. There’s another way to be heard without hurting the person you love.
 
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How do you know if the work you’ve been doing is actually working? Healing isn’t always about feeling better or never getting triggered again. Sometimes the real results show up in how you respond, how you move through discomfort, and how you relate to yourself and others.
In this episode, we talk about what it really means to measure your healing, how you know you’re growing, and why integration is such an important part of the process. Because doing the work is one thing, but actually living differently because of it is where the real transformation happens.
 
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What does it really mean to be spiritually aligned? And how important is it to share that alignment with your partner? Spirituality can shape the way we see ourselves, our relationships, and the decisions we make, but being aligned doesn’t necessarily mean believing or doing everything the same way.
In this episode, we explore what spiritual alignment can look and feel like, how it shows up in relationships, and what happens when we learn to trust our own connection with God while also making space for our partner’s journey.
 
Ready to do the work and go deeper in your own healing? Book a consultation call with us or find Dave’s course here:
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Shiv: https://calendly.com/siobhanmartinell/30min
 
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Doubt is bound to creep into every relationship at some point. Sometimes it’s an important signal that something needs our attention, and other times it’s our fear, uncertainty, or old wounds taking the wheel. The challenge is learning the difference.
In this episode, we’re talking about what happens when doubt starts to take over. When we constantly question the relationship, look to our partner for reassurance, or let our doubts shape the way we connect with them. Because while listening to doubt can be healthy, letting it run the relationship can slowly erode trust, connection, and ultimately the relationship itself.
 
Ready to do the work and go deeper in your own healing? Book a consultation call with us or find Dave’s course here:
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Social media has become such a normal part of our lives that it’s easy to forget how much it can shape the way we see ourselves, our partners, and our relationships. From comparison and jealousy, to how much we scroll, to the stories we create based on what we see online, it can have a bigger impact on our connection than we realize.
In this episode, we’re talking about the ways social media can quietly influence our relationships, what it looks like when it starts creating disconnection, and how to stay grounded in what’s actually real instead of getting caught up in what we see on a screen.
 
Ready to do the work and go deeper in your own healing? Book a consultation call with us or find Dave’s course here:
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Uncertainty is a part of life, but that doesn’t mean it’s easy to sit with. In this episode, we’re talking about the uncertainty that shows up in relationships, career, and life and what happens when our nervous system doesn’t know how to handle the unknown.
We explore how uncertainty can live in the body, impact the way we connect with the people we love, and lead us to seek control or certainty when what we really need is the capacity to be with what we don’t know. Because sometimes the work isn’t finding the answer, it’s learning to trust yourself while you wait for it.
 
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How do you know when it’s time to truly commit? In this episode, we talk about what it looks like to trust yourself enough to know that no matter what happens, you’ll be okay and how that changes the way you choose a partner and a relationship.
We talk about being aligned in your values and what you want, choosing someone you’d be willing to go to war with, and what it really means to have an equal partner by your side. Because commitment isn’t about knowing everything will work out, it’s about trusting yourself and the person you’re choosing to build with.
 
Ready to do the work and go deeper in your own healing? Book a consultation call with us or find Dave’s course here:
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Shiv: https://calendly.com/siobhanmartinell/30min
 
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Sometimes in relationships, we’re simply not connected. And while disconnection is inevitable, what matters most is what we do with it. In this episode, we talk about why learning to be okay with moments of disconnection and resisting the urge to make them worse can actually be the key to finding our way back to each other.
We explore what it looks like to give each other space without creating more distance, and how repair becomes possible when we stop fighting the disconnection and start trusting that connection can return.
 
Ready to do the work and go deeper in your own healing? Book a consultation call with us or find Dave’s course here:
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Have you ever felt like you've become one with your to-do list? In this episode, Shiv shares her own experience of realizing she'd slipped into constant "doing" mode, living in a state of stress instead of being present. We explore why this happens, how it impacts our ability to connect with the people we love, and what it looks like to slow down enough to actually experience the moments we're living.
 
Ready to do the work and go deeper in your own healing? Book a consultation call with us or find Dave’s course here:
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We all have needs in our relationships, but what happens when we start expecting our partner to meet all of them? In this episode, we unpack the pressure we can unknowingly place on the person we love, why it happens, and how it can create resentment, disconnection, and impossible expectations. We also talk about the importance of learning to meet more of your own emotional needs, recognizing when your partner simply doesn't have the ability to show up in a particular season, and how shifting these expectations can create a healthier, more connected relationship.
 
Ready to do the work and go deeper in your own healing? Book a consultation call with us or find Dave’s course here:
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Shiv: https://calendly.com/siobhanmartinell/30min
 
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