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Ep.59 The art of repair

Relationships aren’t defined by how well we avoid conflict—but by how we come back together after it. In this episode, we dive into the art of repair—what it really means to repair after disconnection, conflict, or misunderstanding. We talk about why repair is so essential for trust and intimacy, why so many of us never learned how to do it, and the common mistakes people make when trying to make things right. We also share tools, real-life examples, and reflective questions to help you navigate the messy, vulnerable, and beautiful process of repair—whether it’s with a partner, friend, child, or even yourself.
If you’ve ever wondered how to reconnect after a rupture, this one’s for you.
 
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Ep.58 How to express your needs without criticizing your partner

In this honest and vulnerable episode, we’re getting real about something that affects every relationship: expressing your needs without slipping into blame or criticism. We even rated each other (yep!)—Shiv gave Dave a score on how well he expresses his needs, and we unpack what makes this so challenging for both of us. Spoiler: the hardest part isn’t always the communication…it’s figuring out what you actually need in the first place. When we can’t express our needs, they go unmet—and that quiet disconnection builds resentment, shuts down intimacy, and keeps us from showing up as the partners we truly want to be.
We also dive into why how we ask matters just as much as what we ask for—because the energy behind our words can make it easier or harder for our partner to hear us without taking it personally. And what’s fascinating is that our bodies often give us subtle cues when our needs aren’t being met; learning to check in with ourselves, to notice that tightening in the chest or that knot in the stomach, takes practice—and many of us were never taught to do it consciously. In this episode, we share the tools and awareness we’ve developed to lean into those body cues, get clear on our needs, and speak them with honesty and compassion—so we can finally break the cycle of unmet expectations and create deeper connection.
 
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Ep.57 Grieving what you never had

In this episode, we talk about a tender kind of grief that often goes unspoken — the grief of a life that didn’t happen. The future you imagined, the timeline you were hoping for, the version of your story that never came to be.
Whether it’s a relationship that ended, a vision for your future that will never come to be, or a season that didn’t unfold the way you thought it would, this kind of loss is real — even if it’s invisible. And yet, so often, it’s not validated by the world around us.
We explore what it means to hold space for that grief. To acknowledge the ache of things like not becoming a parent, your retirement plan ending with your relationship ending, or navigating the lonely stretch between what you hoped for and where you are now.
Grief isn’t just about losing what you had — it’s also about mourning what you didn’t. And in naming it, we begin to honor it. We begin to heal.
If you’ve ever felt a quiet sadness about the path you didn’t take, or the version of your life you thought you’d be living by now, this conversation is for you.
 
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Ep.56 Overcoming the pit of despair with author Tanner Orel

In this deeply honest and inspiring episode, we sit down with Tanner Orel—viral content creator and author of the thrilling dragon fantasy series Titan’s Nest.We dive into what it’s like to navigate the pit of despair, live with depression, and how anxiety can quietly become a safety blanket that holds us back. Tanner also opens up about the struggle to celebrate wins and find contentment when you’re not yet where you want to be.
I f you’ve ever felt stuck, unmotivated, or quietly beat yourself up for not being “there” yet—this episode is for you. Come for the vulnerability, stay for the metaphors and grounded wisdom.
Can't get enough of Tanner? He can be found on Instagram and Tiktok at @t.d.orel_author and his book Titan’s nest is available at all major retailers.
 
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Ep.55 Is it love...or emotional abuse?

Love isn’t always what it seems. In this episode, we dive into the dark side of love — where emotional abuse, retaliation, and control can be mistaken for passion or commitment.
If you've ever found yourself in a relationship that felt like love on the surface but left you feeling anxious, unseen, or constantly on edge, you're not alone. We're unpacking how love can become distorted… and what real love actually looks like beneath the surface.
Whether you're healing from a toxic dynamic, questioning your relationship, or simply trying to love better — this conversation is for you.
 
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Ep.54 Real love vs. romance

What’s the difference between real love and just being caught up in the romance? In this episode, we dive into the distinction between deep, lasting love and the sparkly thrill of infatuation or lust. We talk about the experience of falling in love, the challenges of modern relationships, and even touch on the “Peter Pan Syndrome” — when emotional immaturity gets in the way of connection. Tune in for an honest, insightful convo that will have you reflecting on your own relationship patterns and what love really means to you.
 
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Ep. 53 The blame game

In today’s episode, we’re diving into something that we all do at times — the blame game. We’re breaking down why we’re so quick to blame others, how it can sneakily keep us stuck, and why it's one of the biggest blocks to real growth and connection.
Shiv shares why blaming feels easier in the moment but ultimately holds us back from healing, how to spot when you’re stuck in a blame cycle, and what to do instead. We also talk about how taking ownership (with compassion) can change your relationships — and your life.
If you're ready to stop pointing fingers and start creating the kind of growth and connection you actually want, this episode is for you.
 
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Ep.52 The most important conversation you will ever have

The way you speak to yourself shapes everything—your confidence, your relationships, your choices, your entire life. In this heartfelt episode, Shiv and Dave dive deep into the lifelong conversation we all have with ourselves. They open up about their own inner dialogues, how self-talk has impacted their journeys, and what they've done to shift from self-criticism to self-compassion. If you've ever struggled with that voice in your head, this one’s for you.
 
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Ep.51 Emotional Intelligence

In this episode, Shiv and Dave get real about their journeys with emotional intelligence—aka tuning into the feelings in our bodies (not just thinking our way through life). They share how they've each learned to connect more deeply with their emotions, what it’s looked like in their relationship, and why it's been a total game-changer.
Dave even takes it a step further by nicknaming his tougher emotions (yes, really), and introduces us to the little crew he carries around inside. It’s honest, funny, and deeply human.
If you've ever wondered how to better understand what you’re feeling—or why that even matters—this one’s for you.
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Ep.50 Our 50th Episode

It’s been a whole year of showing up, learning, growing, and hitting record. In this special anniversary episode, Shiv and Dave share a life update and reflect on everything that’s changed over the past year—personally, professionally, and in their relationship. They also open up about the biggest lessons podcasting has taught them and what they never saw coming. Whether you’ve been here from day one or you’re just joining the journey, they’re grateful you’re here.
 
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