All of You

Ep.78 Projection: it’s easier to see this in you than to face it in me

Have you ever accused someone of something, only to realize later that it was actually about you? In this episode, we’re diving deep into projection, which is the unconscious defense mechanism that makes us see our own wounds, insecurities, and traits in others.
We talk about why projection is so sneaky, how it keeps both people stuck, and what to do when you’re either the one projecting or the one being projected onto. You’ll hear real examples of how projection shows up in relationships (including ours) from jealousy and criticism to perfectionism and even social media comparison and how to recognize when it’s happening.
If you’re ready to stop seeing your pain in someone else and start meeting it within yourself, this episode will help you take that first step.
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Ep.77 Manipulation: the ways we do it without knowing it

We all like to believe we’re “not manipulative.” But the truth? Most of us do it, often without even knowing. In this episode, Shiv opens up about the sneaky, unintentional ways she's tried to control situations or people, and how manipulation can quietly show up in our relationships, families, and even faith.
We explore what manipulation actually is (and isn’t), why we do it, and how fear, control, and learned behavior play a role. From saying “everyone thinks this way” during an argument, to guilt-tripping someone we love, to using silence or comparison to get our needs met — manipulation is often a mask for unmet needs and unspoken fears.
This episode invites you to look inward with compassion and courage. Because when we stop trying to control others, we finally create space for real love, respect, and trust to grow.
 
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Ep.76 Signs of an absent partner

You can be sitting next to someone you love and still feel completely alone.In this episode, we talk about what it really means to have an absent partner and how absence isn’t just physical. It can be emotional, mental, relational, or even spiritual.
We explore the subtle ways absence shows up in relationships: when your partner stops sharing what’s really going on inside, when conversations stay surface-level, when you’re carrying the weight of connection, or when they’re home but their spirit feels miles away.
Being with an absent partner can actually feel lonelier than being single and that loneliness can quietly erode trust and intimacy over time. But absence doesn’t always mean it’s over. Sometimes, it’s a signal of something unhealed, unspoken, or unmanaged beneath the surface.
This episode is a compassionate look at what happens when distance creeps in, and what it actually takes to rebuild closeness, safety, and love again.
 
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Ep.75 Are we chasing or avoiding what we feel

In this episode, we explore how so much of what we do comes down to either chasing or avoiding our emotions. We chase because we believe others have something we’re missing. We avoid because we don’t want to feel what’s already here. And while both patterns can sometimes lead to “good” outcomes, neither one ultimately brings the fulfillment we’re longing for.
We’ll also dive into how this plays out in relationships—how trying to control, manipulate, or look outside the partnership for certain feelings can keep us stuck if we don’t recognize what’s really going on inside of us.
Most importantly, we’ll talk about how to break free from this cycle. What would it look like to actually confront the feeling you’re avoiding? What do you believe you don’t already have that you’re chasing? And how do you begin to shift into a place of awareness and wholeness, instead of chasing or running away?
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Ep.74 Is it time to rest or work harder?

We’ve all hit that moment of wondering: do I need to slow down, or do I just need to push a little harder? In this episode, we unpack how to tell the difference. Self-compassion doesn’t mean complacency—it’s what fuels resilience and lasting growth. Research shows that when we meet ourselves with kindness, we actually achieve more, not less. But pushing when your body and nervous system are already tapped out can do more harm than good.
We explore why rest isn’t the opposite of productivity but the very thing that sustains it, how self-acceptance lays the foundation for real change, and what happens when personal growth turns into perfectionism in disguise. Dave shares his own story of shifting from striving for validation to pursuing true inspiration, and how that completely changed his relationship with growth.
At the heart of it, this is a conversation about learning to listen—so you can know when to pause, when to push, and how to keep moving forward without losing yourself along the way.
 
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Ep.73 The fine line between boundaries and control

Where’s the line between a healthy boundary and trying to control someone you love? In this episode, we dive into the difference. Boundaries create safety, clarity, and respect in a relationship — while control often comes from fear, insecurity, or a need to manage the other person. We’ll share real-life examples of what healthy boundaries sound like versus what control looks like in disguise, and how to know when you’re crossing the line. If you’ve ever wondered, “Am I setting a boundary, or am I just trying to get my way?” this episode is for you.
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Ep.72 Building self confidence

What if the confidence you’ve been chasing isn’t about looking put together or pretending you’ve got it all figured out, but about healing the parts of you that were hurt in the first place?
In this episode, we’re breaking down what real self-confidence looks like and why it can’t come from surface-level fixes. We talk about the wounds that shape how we see ourselves and the subtle ways we avoid facing our insecurities.
You’ll hear personal stories of the areas we lack self confidence and how we work on the parts of ourselves that need it. By the end, you’ll see why healing, not hiding, is the only true path to lasting self-confidence.
 
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Ep.71 Navigating jealousy

Jealousy is one of those emotions everyone feels but no one really likes to talk about. Is it a natural part of love, or does it always point to deeper insecurity? In this episode, we dive into the complexities of jealousy — where it comes from, how it shows up in relationships, and what it might actually be trying to tell us.
We also share how our own views of jealousy have shifted over time and the ways we’ve learned to navigate it in a healthier, more honest way. If you’ve ever wrestled with jealousy (and let’s be real — who hasn’t?) this episode will give you a fresh perspective and practical tools to bring more trust and safety into your relationship.
 
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Ep.70 Hot takes: our spicy opinions and random rants

This week's episode is a little different…Instead of diving deep into one theme, Shiv and Dave are serving up their hot takes—the rants, opinions, and random musings that don’t quite fit into a full topic but are too wild and funny to keep off the mic. From believing that social media isn’t bad to discussing why sometimes eating “unhealthy” is actually the healthier choice, we’re sharing the things we’re currently chewing on.
These takes aren’t set in stone—we believe them today, might change our minds tomorrow, and that’s half the fun. Tune in for laughs, unfiltered conversation, and a peek into how our brains spiral when we let loose.
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Ep.69 Self sabotage: how we get in our own way

Why do we sometimes get in our own way, even when things are going really well? In this episode, we unpack the sneaky ways self-sabotage shows up in our lives—whether in relationships, career, or even moments of peace and happiness. We explore the beliefs that fuel it (“What if it all gets taken away?” “Do I really deserve this?”), and how old family patterns may have shaped what we think love, success, and safety are supposed to look like.
Together, we share personal stories of times we’ve caught ourselves sabotaging, the emotions that come up when life feels too good, and the practical tools we use to break the cycle. You’ll walk away with insights on how to recognize your own patterns, how to push through self-sabotage, and most importantly—what it looks like to actually let things be good.
 
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