All of You

Ep.68 When you don’t feel that chemistry anymore

Attraction isn’t static — it ebbs and flows depending on our energy, our connection, and what’s happening inside of us. In this episode, we talk openly about what happens when “the spark” feels like it’s fading, and how to tell if it’s really gone or just asking for your attention.
We share how to discern whether a lack of attraction is about your own inner world or the dynamic between you and your partner, how insecurity and self-sabotage can make things worse, and why being with a secure partner matters. You’ll hear real stories from our own marriage about times we’ve felt less attracted to each other (and how we handled it), why quick fixes like big date nights aren’t enough, and the small daily habits that actually keep chemistry alive.
If you’ve ever wondered whether attraction can come back and what to do in those moments when it feels like it’s slipping away this conversation will give you the perspective, tools, and hope you need.
 
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Ep.67 Fighting about money part 2

In this follow-up episode, Dave opens up more about the beliefs he formed around money growing up, and together we unpack how those early messages shape the way we approach money today.
We explore the role of safety, control, and values in how couples relate to money, what habits have actually brought us closer, and why there’s no one right way to manage money in a relationship. Our hope is that this conversation helps you feel less alone and a little more equipped to talk about money with the person you love.
 
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Ep.66 Fighting about money part 1

In this first episode of our two-part series on money, Shiv shares how her old money beliefs were shaped by fear, scarcity, and survival—and how shifting those beliefs changed everything. We unpack the idea that couples aren’t actually fighting about money, but about the deeper stories and wounds attached to it. We also explore how someone's money behaviors—like overspending, withholding, or controlling—can create attraction issues, trigger power dynamics, and erode safety in a relationship. If you’ve ever felt misunderstood or disconnected when it comes to finances with your partner, this one’s for you.
 
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Ep.65 Defensiveness: staying curious and confident in conflict

In one of our most listened-to episodes, we tackled defensiveness—and you asked for more. In this deeper dive, we explore how to stay open and grounded when your guard wants to go up. We share real stories from our own relationship, unpack why defensiveness shows up most with the people we love, and offer practical tools for staying regulated, curious, and connected—even in the heat of conflict!
 
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Ep.64 Our story: how it started and almost ended

In this episode, we’re sharing the real, raw story of how we met—and how it nearly all fell apart. From big reactions to small things, to feeling controlled and walking on eggshells, our relationship brought our triggers front and center. We’re talking about what made us give it another shot, how we slowly rebuilt trust, and what the work actually looked like (spoiler: it wasn’t cute or easy). If you’ve ever wondered if it’s possible to come back from a rocky start—this one’s for you.
 
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Ep. 63 Why people pleasing is so effed up

Ever said yes when you wanted to scream no? Same. In this episode, we dive into the messy world of people pleasing — where it comes from, how it shows up in sneaky ways (even in marriages and friendships), and why trying to keep everyone happy might actually be robbing you of your real self.
We dig into things like:👉 Why is it so hard to disappoint people?👉 Can you be fully yourself and a people pleaser?👉 Does it actually hurt connection more than it helps?
You'll walk away feeling seen, maybe called out (in the best way), and reminded that it’s okay to disappoint others — and that the people who love you can handle it.
This one's for the over-functioners, the “I just want everyone to be okay” crew, and anyone learning to take their dang power back.

Ep.62 How we stopped a fight by understanding our feelings

In this episode, we’re talking about one of the most underrated relationship skills: feeling your feelings before they explode into a fight.
Shiv shares a real-life moment where she caught herself feeling irritated and chose to pause and go to bed — instead of picking a fight with Dave. That one small choice shifted everything.
We talk about:
How to recognize when you’re emotionally charged
The power of becoming the watcher of your thoughts
Why naming your feelings is one of the most disarming tools in conflict
How learning to feel can change the energy of your entire relationship
If you’ve ever found yourself in a fight that started over something small but spiraled quickly… this one’s for you.
 
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Ep.61 Single after 30: The good, bad and really ugly

If you’ve ever found yourself wondering, “Why hasn’t love happened for me yet?”—this episode is for you.
Dave flips the script and interviews me about my experience being single until 32. I open up about the internal narratives I wrestled with, the societal pressure I felt, and the fears that made me question if real love was still possible for me.
We talk about: • The sneaky ways our beliefs block us from love • What I wish I did differently • Why healing before dating matters • How to actually put yourself out there without losing yourself
Whether you're in your 30s, 40s, or simply feeling behind in love, this episode is here to remind you: your story isn’t late—it’s right on time. And yes, love is still possible. In fact, it might just be better than you imagined.
 
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Ep.60 Rebuilding after divorce

In this deeply personal episode, Dave opens up about something 50% of people face but rarely feel safe enough to unpack out loud: rebuilding your life after divorce. Dave gets raw and real as he shares what life looked like nearly six years ago, from the state of his mental health to what he wishes he could tell his past self during that painful season.
We explore:
What he regrets (and doesn’t) from those early months
How he knew when he was ready to date again
What helped him heal and find clarity
How he supported his kids through the transition
And the intentional things he now does in our relationship to keep us strong
Whether you’re navigating divorce yourself, supporting someone who is, or just curious about what it really takes to rebuild and love again, this episode is full of insight, tenderness, and hope.
 
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Ep.59 The art of repair

Relationships aren’t defined by how well we avoid conflict—but by how we come back together after it. In this episode, we dive into the art of repair—what it really means to repair after disconnection, conflict, or misunderstanding. We talk about why repair is so essential for trust and intimacy, why so many of us never learned how to do it, and the common mistakes people make when trying to make things right. We also share tools, real-life examples, and reflective questions to help you navigate the messy, vulnerable, and beautiful process of repair—whether it’s with a partner, friend, child, or even yourself.
If you’ve ever wondered how to reconnect after a rupture, this one’s for you.
 
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