All of You

Ep.83 We weaponized the work

In this episode, we’re getting honest about a pattern we didn’t expect to find in our own relationship: using personal growth tools in ways they were never meant to be used. We talk about how easy it is, once you’ve done a lot of healing and communication work, to slip into correcting, analyzing, or psychoanalyzing your partner — all under the guise of “using the tools.”
If you’ve ever caught yourself turning relationship tools as a weapon, this conversation will feel like a deep exhale.
 
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Ep.82 Your permission to not be liked

This week we’re diving into the uncomfortable truth that not everyone is going to like you — and why that’s actually okay. We talk through our own experiences with rejection, wanting to be misunderstood, and the pressure to manage how people see you. It’s an honest, unstructured conversation about what it looks like to release that weight and stay grounded in who you are.
If you’ve ever felt the urge to shrink, shape-shift, or people-please your way into being liked, this one’s for you.
 
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Ep.81 Outsourcing your self worth

Ever feel totally fine… until your partner seems a little off? And suddenly you’re questioning yourself, replaying conversations, or wondering if you did something wrong? That’s outsourcing your self-worth — and most people don’t even realize they’re doing it.
In this episode, we break down why your partner’s mood or behavior can feel like it determines your value, how this pattern quietly shows up in relationships, and what it actually takes to stop letting someone else’s emotions dictate how you feel about yourself.
 
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Ep.80 How health in one area is connected to all areas

Ever notice how when one part of your life feels off, everything else starts to feel a little off too? In this episode, we explore how all areas of your health:  mental, physical, emotional, relational, spiritual, and even financial are deeply connected.
We talk about why you can’t truly feel well if you’re neglecting one area, how imbalance shows up in subtle ways, and what it actually looks like to bring yourself back into alignment. You’ll walk away with a deeper understanding of how caring for one area of your life creates a ripple effect of healing and wholeness in the others.
 
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Ep.79 What we really want in an apology

We think we want “I’m sorry,” but what we’re really craving is to be seen in our pain. In this episode, we share a story from one of our own past fights and talk about why apologies sometimes don’t land the way we hope they will. Because not all of the pain is from the moment—it’s often old, living in our bodies and showing up when we least expect it. We’ll unpack what it really means to feel seen, and how to repair in a way that brings you closer instead of getting stuck in the same loop.
This one’s for anyone who’s ever thought, “Why doesn’t their apology feel like enough?”
 
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Ep.78 Projection: it’s easier to see this in you than to face it in me

Have you ever accused someone of something, only to realize later that it was actually about you? In this episode, we’re diving deep into projection, which is the unconscious defense mechanism that makes us see our own wounds, insecurities, and traits in others.
We talk about why projection is so sneaky, how it keeps both people stuck, and what to do when you’re either the one projecting or the one being projected onto. You’ll hear real examples of how projection shows up in relationships (including ours) from jealousy and criticism to perfectionism and even social media comparison and how to recognize when it’s happening.
If you’re ready to stop seeing your pain in someone else and start meeting it within yourself, this episode will help you take that first step.
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Ep.77 Manipulation: the ways we do it without knowing it

We all like to believe we’re “not manipulative.” But the truth? Most of us do it, often without even knowing. In this episode, Shiv opens up about the sneaky, unintentional ways she's tried to control situations or people, and how manipulation can quietly show up in our relationships, families, and even faith.
We explore what manipulation actually is (and isn’t), why we do it, and how fear, control, and learned behavior play a role. From saying “everyone thinks this way” during an argument, to guilt-tripping someone we love, to using silence or comparison to get our needs met — manipulation is often a mask for unmet needs and unspoken fears.
This episode invites you to look inward with compassion and courage. Because when we stop trying to control others, we finally create space for real love, respect, and trust to grow.
 
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Ep.76 Signs of an absent partner

You can be sitting next to someone you love and still feel completely alone.In this episode, we talk about what it really means to have an absent partner and how absence isn’t just physical. It can be emotional, mental, relational, or even spiritual.
We explore the subtle ways absence shows up in relationships: when your partner stops sharing what’s really going on inside, when conversations stay surface-level, when you’re carrying the weight of connection, or when they’re home but their spirit feels miles away.
Being with an absent partner can actually feel lonelier than being single and that loneliness can quietly erode trust and intimacy over time. But absence doesn’t always mean it’s over. Sometimes, it’s a signal of something unhealed, unspoken, or unmanaged beneath the surface.
This episode is a compassionate look at what happens when distance creeps in, and what it actually takes to rebuild closeness, safety, and love again.
 
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Ep.75 Are we chasing or avoiding what we feel

In this episode, we explore how so much of what we do comes down to either chasing or avoiding our emotions. We chase because we believe others have something we’re missing. We avoid because we don’t want to feel what’s already here. And while both patterns can sometimes lead to “good” outcomes, neither one ultimately brings the fulfillment we’re longing for.
We’ll also dive into how this plays out in relationships—how trying to control, manipulate, or look outside the partnership for certain feelings can keep us stuck if we don’t recognize what’s really going on inside of us.
Most importantly, we’ll talk about how to break free from this cycle. What would it look like to actually confront the feeling you’re avoiding? What do you believe you don’t already have that you’re chasing? And how do you begin to shift into a place of awareness and wholeness, instead of chasing or running away?
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Ep.74 Is it time to rest or work harder?

We’ve all hit that moment of wondering: do I need to slow down, or do I just need to push a little harder? In this episode, we unpack how to tell the difference. Self-compassion doesn’t mean complacency—it’s what fuels resilience and lasting growth. Research shows that when we meet ourselves with kindness, we actually achieve more, not less. But pushing when your body and nervous system are already tapped out can do more harm than good.
We explore why rest isn’t the opposite of productivity but the very thing that sustains it, how self-acceptance lays the foundation for real change, and what happens when personal growth turns into perfectionism in disguise. Dave shares his own story of shifting from striving for validation to pursuing true inspiration, and how that completely changed his relationship with growth.
At the heart of it, this is a conversation about learning to listen—so you can know when to pause, when to push, and how to keep moving forward without losing yourself along the way.
 
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